True friendship doesn’t require seeing each other every day.

This teenage girl is juggling home renovations and final exams. This is why she isn’t too open to accepting visitors at the moment.

However, her best friend who is on the spectrum keeps showing up unannounced.

Now, she’s wondering if it’s wrong to set firmer limits.

Read the full story below.

WIBTA for asking my friend to stop coming over?

I (16F) live down the street from my best friend (16F).

My parents both have stable jobs.

They have saved enough to recently renovate the kitchen and bathroom.

We are still mid-construction, so we don’t have too much to eat and drink and do.

This teenage girl sometimes forgets to respond to her friend’s text message.

In addition, I’ve been prepping for end of year exams recently.

My best friend will text me, but I won’t respond because I’m studying and don’t see the text.

But she will come over anyway and stays for a few hours, aby the time she leaves, I’m too tired to study and do schoolwork.

She is starting to get annoyed by her friend constantly showing up at their house.

She’s also constantly asking if I have food to eat (I don’t, mid-construction and stuff).

It’s getting really annoying.

I’ve asked her to text me before she comes over.

She does, but then she doesn’t wait for a response.

They even had to feed her since she hadn’t eaten dinner when visiting.

She also often comes not having had dinner, so we have to feed her, even if my family and I have been eating instant ramen or bread for the last few weeks.

She is on the spectrum, so maybe it’s on me, but I feel like I’ve clearly communicated my boundaries, and she’s just kind of inviting herself over.

So, WIBTA if I asked her to stop coming over unless I respond to her texts?

As long as she says it in a nice way, that seems like a reasonable boundary. She could explain that she needs time to study.

Let’s read the reactions of other people to this story on Reddit.

This user shares their personal thoughts.

You shouldn’t feel bad about saying no, says this person.

This person makes a valid point.

This person advises being honest with her.

Finally, someone on the spectrum also speaks up.

You can’t expect kids on the spectrum to fully understand how to respect boundaries.

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