When a friend is struggling it is heartbreaking, but there are limits to how much you should help.

What are those limits in this story?

See why this person is uneasy.

Should I fund my friend’s life after both of their parents died?

There are a group of us who are still pretty good friends from high school.

We’re all in our early 40 and very lucky in that most of us live comfortably.

One of the group just lost her second parent.

It’s raised some tough questions.

The friend group is suggesting that because her parents supplemented her funds for basic living, we should now open a rechargeable debit card to help her.

She is not disabled in any way; she’s completely irresponsible with money and rather averse to working hard.

She has a university degree she doesn’t use.

The situation is tricky.

I feel like a jerk for wanting to say no, but I have worked hard for my life and have children of my own.

I’m not saying we shouldn’t send a gift or food (we’re now living all over the country), but I don’t think it’s my job to help fund her life.

Help, please! I really don’t know what to do.

Here is what people are saying.

I wonder why they’re helping her.

I can understand that. It’s hard to see.

I wonder if she got an inheritance.

I don’t get it.

Great idea. Budgeting and investing will change her life.

Don’t feel bad, but remember she lost her parents so don’t be a jerk.

Still, it’s her money.

If you thought that was an interesting story, check this one out about a man who created a points system for his inheritance, and a family friend ends up getting almost all of it.